Have you ever tried to keep yourself from speaking the things you truly believe simply because you were concerned about what others may be thinking or saying? If yes, it's not a problem. Many of us struggle with an unintentional fear that can affect our choices, and even our happiness and happiness: the fear of others' views (sometimes known as FOPO). The fear can be very powerful, and even invisible, and it's important to understand in order to live your life on your terms. Read on to discover how it could manifest in your everyday life and how you can deal with it. You might be surprised by how it can impact your life.
What Is FOPO and Why Should You Care?
FOPO is the acronym for Fear of Others' Opinions. In essence, it's the stress or anxiety that you feel when you worry about what others think of you. Research suggests that over 60 percent of the population living in the U.S. often alter their behavior due to fear of being critiqued or criticized. This isn't just a concern for teenagers or those who use social media. It's affecting everyone even when in workplaces such as offices or at schools.
The Everyday Signs of FOPO
FOPO can enter your life in a variety of ways. Perhaps you are hesitant to wear a bright-colored shirt at work, or are hesitant to speak up whenever you'd prefer to speak out in an interview. The very thing you choose to share on social media could be influenced by this anxiety. Here are some of the most frequent indicators:
- Refraining from sharing your opinions in conversations
- Avoiding new experiences due to the fear of being assessed
- Constant second-guessing of your own decisions
- Change your style or appearance so that you "fit in"
- Be concerned about what other people might think of your performance or work
Why Do We Care So Much What Others Think?
It's perfectly normal to be concerned in small doses about the opinions of others. Humans are social creatures. We've developed to be in groups and rely on one another. However, when FOPO becomes overwhelming it can cause stress and anxiety and may even prevent you from pursuing the things you really desire. In our modern, connected world the constant stream of social media feedback only cranks up the stress. It's not difficult to feel as if you're constantly under scrutiny.
"The more you care about what other people think, the more you'll feel like you're not enough."
How Does FOPO Limit Your Life?
FOPO can become an obstacle to your personal development and happiness. For instance, studies show that those who routinely act to please others have lower satisfaction with their jobs and lower confidence. A study discovered that 40 percent of professionals haven't been considered for a promotion or new job because they were worried about being judged, even when they're qualified. If you let this worry get out of control you could end up stuck in a routine that's not right for you.
Tips to Manage and Overcome FOPO
You don't have to allow FOPO make all the decisions. With just a few tweaks and you'll be living your life according to your own preferences:
- Be aware of that you're changing your behavior to please other people.
- Decide on your personal boundaries, and what opinions are important to you.
- Be self-aware and remind yourself of the values you hold dear to your heart.
- Try taking small risks, like sharing your ideas with groups, and then see what happens.
- Limit the time spent on social media in order to limit comparison and judgement.
Based on my personal experiences, the people I am most impressed with are usually those who are honest and confident to be themselves. Their confidence is infectious! If I concentrate on the things that make personal development vital, my life becomes much more easy.
Life Beyond FOPO: Choose Yourself
Being aware of FOPO is the very first step. it could be an important game changer. When you overcome the anxiety of others' opinions and make room for acceptance of yourself, confidence building and your own expectations of what success means to you. If you've ever thought "how do I stop worrying about what others think? " Remember that you're not alone and the process is well worth it.
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